chrisdvanne, go to Control Panel » Design customization » Forum » Appearance of entries, and temporarily add the code "$ENTRY_MANAGE_ICON_BAR$" (without quotation marks) to somewhere before the message (like somewhere below your profile picture). After you have successfully edited/deleted your message, remove the code you just added.
hey i'm joe and i'm a twink, please enjoy your stay
i do not work for the company anymore, sorry for the late replies
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