chrisdvanne, go to Control Panel » Design customization » Forum » Appearance of entries, and temporarily add the code "$ENTRY_MANAGE_ICON_BAR$" (without quotation marks) to somewhere before the message (like somewhere below your profile picture). After you have successfully edited/deleted your message, remove the code you just added.
hey i'm joe, please don't call me on my real name because you're gonna misspell or mispronounce it and it drives me nuts
i do not work for the company anymore, sorry for the late replies
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